写字

Jordan最进很有问题，他很怕写字。在学校，老师要全部学生拿出笔学写刚刚教的字，他连笔也不拿出来，只是坐着什么也不做。老师投诉他很多次，有时好一点，老师去到他的位子，抓住他的手，说几句好话劝他写，他会勉强写一两个字。不是的话，他就哭个不停，嚷着不要写字。
在家也一样，把homework带回来，很难才可以劝到他做功课。更惨的是，我发现他睡觉发梦也说：我不要写字。。。做妈妈的我听了都心酸酸。
有些亲戚朋友说，4岁小朋友吧了，不要逼得他太紧，以免长大了会有阴影。但一些朋友老师却说，3岁定80，4岁他不爱写字，5岁他也同样拒绝写字，6岁更不用说，上了小学，that is！老师根本不会有时间每个小孩去教，你要写不要写，他们根本顾不了那么多，到最后不爱写字的小朋友就变成了愈来愈差的学生。
做妈妈的我真的是进退两难，束手无策。有谁能够教一教我，到底要怎样教导自己这顽固的孩子对写字有兴趣呢。。

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Jordan has problem recently, he doenst want to write. At kindi, when teacher ask all students to take out their pencil to write, he would just sit still and not doing anything. Sometimes when teacher go to him and hold his hand, he will entertain and write 1 -2 words. Otherwise, he will cry and yell and doesnt want to write. Teacher complained him many times.

At home, if he brought back his homework, it's very hard for me to ask him to take them out to do. The worst scenario is I found that he was talking in his dream: I dont want to write. I was so heart sick when I heard that.

My relatives told me, he is just 4 years-old, dont need to force him to write, just let it be. But some of my gf and teachers would say, if he doesnt like to write in 4 yrs-old, he will be the same when he reach 5 or 6 yrs-old. And when he goes to Primary School.... that is! Teachers will not have time to go through one by one, it's your own matter when you want to learn or not.
Being a mother, I m so lost, I dont want to force Jordan to write, I dont want to create him a phobia, but I dont want him to dislike study when he grow up also... What should I do??

心态的问题

有一个女人，她的丈夫来马来西亚公干, 她跟随她的丈夫过来住.她十分不习惯,常常埋怨,吃的又不好，睡得又不好，她终于顶不顺了，然后回她自己的国家。回去了，也不见得很好。终于，她爸爸说的一句话改变了她的想法。他说，有两个人从高处往下跳，一个人看见了地上一大堆的垃圾，他觉得这地球真可悲。另一个人看见天空白云，他认为这世界真美好。这地球是一样的，只是每个人看的角度不一样吧了。
这女人终于明白了这道理，她又来到了马来西亚，这一次，她觉得吃的样样也好，玩的睡的住的都很好。地方依旧，只是心态改变了，一切都变得更美好！

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A woman follows her hubby to Malaysia who work here. She doesnt really used to the culture here, and always complain that she cant eat and sleep well. Finally, she decided to go back to her home country. However, this doesnt change her to be a happier person, until once her father enlighten her with a story... 2 men jump from high, and 1 man sees a pile of rubbish, he feels very depressed as he thinks that the world is very dirty. The other man can see the sky is full with cloud, and he thinks that this is a beautiful world.... The world is the same, the problem is only lies on the different angle you look at things.

She finally understands this is her problem, she decided to return to Malaysia. This time, she is happier, she thinks that Malaysia food is very nice, people here are warm, and everything surrounded her are just perfect!

Everything is still the same, however with different perspective, the world can change from the worst to the best.

讨厌

Jordan的爸爸去Johor就要喝酒，我习惯说：爸爸很讨厌，一去Johor就喝酒。
那天Jordan很坏蛋，
我：Jordan，你很讨厌的，坏蛋到要死。
Jordan：har，我很讨厌啊？我去喝酒啊？
哈哈哈。。。真的是童言无忌！

摇头

恒恒不会说话，但他会摇头说‘不’，嘻嘻，好可爱。他9个月了，许多事也例懂一二。不给他玩的东西，把他抢回来，他会捉住，然后摇头，代表他不肯给回我们，哈哈！
嘿，差一点忘了记下他那天和他哥哥骂架的威水事哦，好厉害！那天Jordan在看戏，恒恒跑去摸电视，Jordan很生气，然后喊"NO！不可以！"。这弟弟可威水咯，他大大声喊 “啊！！！！” wah lau，跟他哥哥骂过！哥哥再来一声 "NO！不可以！"。恒恒也不认输，再喊“啊！！！！” 哇，很精彩！才9个月的小家伙会跟哥哥骂架，真不懂几时骂到老。。。以后真的"有排闹”。

拍手

恒恒快要到9个月的时候学会了拍拍手，好可爱哦！有一天我们在家唱karaoke，他哥哥Jordan拿起麦克风唱：Do A Deer A Female Deer... 恒恒听了很开心，举起双手拍拍拍。
他会把手举得和他的头一样高，然后整个脸也往上仰，看着双手来拍也，真的很cute！

谈天

Jordan问完了结婚的问题，然后他爸爸跑进来，
爸爸：喂Jordan，为什么你还没有睡觉？你跟妈咪谈天啊?
爸爸：你们在谈什么天？
Jordan：我们在谈我们的天啦！
哈哈。。。

结婚

临睡前，我和Jordan在床上谈天。。。
Jordan：妈咪，爸爸跟妈咪结婚啊？
我：是咯，爸爸跟妈咪结婚，然后生了Jordan，又生了弟弟咯。
Jordan：哦，是啊。。。
过了一会儿。。。
Jordan：又生了婆婆。。。然后又生了公公啊。。。
哇哈哈哈哈！！！
小孩真的很好奇，想象空间也很大，真的是好可爱！

开心

Jordan第二学期开学到现在，每天上学还是哭。我劝过也骂过，真的不懂要用什么办法。。。那天和他谈天。
我：Jordan你开心吗？
Jordan：我开心。
我：Jordan,你去school开心吗？
Jordan：不开心。
我：为什么你不开心？
我：你要想着自己很开心的，那么你就会开心，你知道吗？
Jordan不说话。。
我：Jordan想着自己开心，然后去school就会开心。。Jordan开心就不会哭哭哭。。
Jordan还是不说话。。
我：Jordan不会哭哭哭，妈咪就会开心，然后妈咪就会买很多东西给他的。。
Jordan终于开腔了。。
Jordan：妈咪，我现在开心了，你买东西给我啦！
Oh My God!